Day 12 – Saying YES to Falling Behind
Ok. I’m behind on writing my Saying YES to ME posts. It happened last weekend as well and I got caught up. What was I thinking when I said I would write these posts everyday throughout December?! I am in the middle of a launch for heaven’s sake. And there is so much other “stuff” going on like just taking care of myself and my dog. And resting. And creating. And sleeping and eating! But no matter what I am keeping to my word. The fun thing is that there is a blog challenge going on right now so I have been posting these to my blog as well and other bloggers have been coming by to comment. So my inspiration to write was in perfect timing and I am definitely feeling the positive vibe from within for taking this task on! Everything is happening in perfect timing…even falling behind. There are no rules except the ones I make up along the way. And the most important thing is that I stay true to myself. Sometime I wonder if there has been a part of me that was afraid of feeling judged when others read my posts. But that is not my concern because of those that write and share how they feel inspired. I am going to make every effort to write everyday no matter what comes up in between. It is all good as “they” say!
Wendy
Day 11 – Saying YES to FAILURE
Today I say yes to failure because it has made me who I am. I have failed many times in my 30 years of entrepreneurship. I trusted the wrong people in business and I did not trust my intuition.
There was a great financial cost to these failures. There was also great human suffering and turmoil.
It has made me look deep inside to see how I attracted these people and situations in my life. I had to take responsibility for creating everything. I had to learn that there is nobody to blame – not even myself because blame does not solve any problem. Blame only keeps us stuck.
I learned that a great deal of what I was taught by family, friends, teachers, my community and my world was an illusion. I changed my beliefs. I discovered my own truth. I learned that nobody is the source of my own good except my Divine Source. And I learned that I am my Divine Source.
Today I shared with someone that I was going to write a blog post about failure and her response is that there really is no failure. She suggested that failure is what makes us experts in the areas we are here to teach. She is right because we have to learn a new way for ourselves to solve the challenges in our lives. And then we can share what we learned with our world. In this new economy that is what we are being called to do. So the “so called” failures are just our learning ground.
And if life was easy every step of the way it sure would be boring!
Wendy
Day 10 – Saying YES to BUILDING CONFIDENCE
I never thought much about confidence or courage for that matter.
When I was growing up I was put down a lot at home, school and extracurricular activities. I was also given too much responsibility at home instead of getting out, socializing and dating. My mother used to tell me that the boys did not ask me out because I was not rich. I have often wondered how that affected me in all areas of my life. I tried a lot growing up and somewhere along the way I must have lost my confidence and did not realize it.
In the early days of my business I made cold calls. I knocked on doors and handed out my cards and I looked through the phone book and made phone calls. I never really liked it but as I look back I can see how it helped me build confidence and as well as my business.
Recently I have realized that I have been building confidence. I’ve been putting myself out there more, leading calls and sharing more of my story. It was not anything I was trying to do but it feels good to notice that my confidence is getting stronger as I step deeper into my purpose and new business. Everything I do these days is getting easier. And I care less about being perfect. Plus I do not seem to care what people may think about me anymore either.
The point is I’m feeling a level of confidence that is new and refreshing … now that I’m paying attention to it! 🙂
Wendy
Day 9 – Saying YES to BEING RAW and BEING ME
Sometimes I think that I am not poised and articulate and graceful. I talk fast at times. Sometimes I sound like I have a Texas or country accent. I do not feel polished. Much of what I know and use I taught myself. I do not have formal training in many areas of business or the arts. I kind of like it that way because I prefer to do things my way. When I have taken classes in the past or been told what to do rarely do I listen and when I tried to listen I did not get results like I thought I would. So I guess I will just keep being me and listening to my own intuition and inspiration and not concern myself with what others may think of me. That is where true authentic, personal power live anyway.
Love and Light!
Wendy
Day 8 – Saying YES to BEING BRIEF AND TO THE POINT!
I can be very verbose. I start writing and it just keeps going and going and going! LOL And then I start realizing I have to edit and that is one of my least favorite things to do. And then feels like work. I just like to create. Ok I realize that sometimes it is important to edit but I also love the free flow of stream of consciousness writing. It is authentic and even though I may risk the chance of someone writing me to say that I made a mistake in grammar or missed a punctuation mark (yes that happened last year) I am going to remember to keep myself on point as I write. I suppose it could be great training for staying focused in all the areas of my business. Hm. Never thought about that but it feels so on point! 😉
Love and Light!
Wendy
Day 7 – Saying YES to MY BEST FRIEND
My best friend other than myself is Simba! He is my 21 month dog. Actually he is still way more puppy than dog! I love him to pieces. Had I known what it would be like to have a dog I would’ve done this a long, long time ago. 
The truth is that when I was twelve I was deeply saddened when my special dog was given away. I came home from school everyday and went to the back door and “Tiny” would come to the back door and we would play. Actually I barely even remember playing with him and I believe that is because I blocked it out after he was given away.
This particular day I came home and he did not come to the back door. I turned to look at my mother who was watching me as she sat at the kitchen table.
I said “Where is Tiny?”
She said “We gave him away.”
It was gut wrenching. How could my parents do such a thing and not give me a heads up first so that I could say goodbye? I must have put up a huge fuss because two weeks later my parents called the organization to find out if our dog was still there and we discovered that he had been adopted by a family for their little boy who was 12.
For the last few decades I often wondered what it would be like to have a dog and I always came up with an excuse about why I could not have one. There would be hair all over my house and on my clothes. I traveled a lot and I would not want to leave my dog in a kennel and miss me. Another one was that I am allergic.
And now there is hair all over the house, on my clothes, in my car and in my bed! I wouldn’t have it any other way. Maybe I am allergic but if I am I got used to it. He snuggles with me and I can feel our relationship strengthening all the time. 
Shortly after I brought him to my house last year I was standing at the back window watching him play and I remembered how I was standing at the back door as a child waiting for Tiny to come to the back door. And then the tears flowed. Simba helped me get in touch with old, stuck emotions that I was able to release. He is my healing dog!
Sometimes I wonder why we kept getting dogs when I was growing up. And sometimes I think that Simba is Tiny’s spirit who came back to me. Maybe that is just wishful thinking. It does not matter. What matterS is that I just adore my baby. He is so sweet and special and I am in love!
Love and Light!
Wendy
PS. We had a dog name Giant who was actually tiny. I have no idea why we named him Giant! When we got our next dog he was tiny but then he got really big and it was always funny to call him Tiny 🙂
Day 6 – Saying YES to GRATITUDE
Last week at Thanksgiving I felt something that was new. It was a very deep and grounded awareness of my gratitude about my family. That may seem silly to many at first but for me the reason it is so monumental is because in the past 30 years there has been so much sadness about my family relationships that I often would find myself wishing for something better or compare my family to what I observed when I went to visit my friends’ holiday celebrations for dessert.
It always felt great to be able to have conversations with my friends and their parents … something that has not happened with some members of my family without feeling judged or put down or ignored in some way.
So it felt and still feels so wonderful to notice and feel the gratitude for what is. When I began writing these “Say YES to ME” post several days ago one of the things that I “hoped” for was feeling gratitude for everything by the end of December!
It appears that I am well on my way!
Love and Light!
Wendy G Young
DAY 5 – Saying YES to SELF CARE
This is the fourth time I am sitting down to write this post. It might seem like I have a block to self care but actually it is because I allowed myself some self care and have not written since Thursday so now with inspired energy I am catching up.
This post began as “Saying YES to MOTHERING ME” and transformed into the topic of SELF CARE all by itself
My first attempt was Friday night after midnight and I was too tired to write so I went to sleep. Then I made another attempt and it transformed again.
I was going to say how I am terrible at self care. But going to sleep Friday night instead of trying to write was definitely me taking care of me. And Friday when I realized I needed to rest I took a long bath and relaxed instead of forcing myself.
I even thought about how it would be nice to get out and the next day I was invited to a party and even after initially thinking about declining or even going and leaving early I went and had a wonderful time playing because that is what I chose to do before I left. That is a sign of self care if I ever saw one because normally I would say no without much advance notice (or maybe even with notice!) I choose lots and lots (& LOTS) of fun from here on out!
So I am getting better at self care. It really is about being aware of what my body/mind need are and listening.
As a child I did my best to take care of myself but it was difficult because I had so much responsibility taking care of other people. My needs were not important to others so I did not learn that my needs are important to me. It has been programmed in for so long that I have neglected myself in so many ways.
I choose to choose self care. Yes I know I used the word “choose” more than once in one sentence. I choose to use choose because I have the divine right to choose! Amen.
Self care (self love, self nurturing) is a necessary way of being in this ever evolving world.
Wendy G Young
Day 4 – Saying YES to NOT KNOWING
Several years ago after my major ergonomic consulting contract ended and I was in the beginning stages of “figuring out” what to do next I remember saying to a beloved NLP teacher of mine.
“I don’t know what is going to happen.”
And with a smile she said “Nobody knows what is going to happen.”
That is so true. We can do all the planning in the world and sometimes life just happens. What is the phrase? “We make plans and God Laughs!”
Seven years ago I finally finished my ergonomic ebook, Get Inside Your Comfort Zone that I had been writing and editing for over a year. I sold some copies and then a week later my dear stepmother passed away and then one thing after another happened and I never got back to the marketing of the book. I just lost interest.
Then I did an entire month of interviews with experts to help people get comfortable and out of pain. I wrote press releases and articles and had a lot of fun and nothing substantial changed in my business.
I tried everything in the world to turn the business around and nothing seemed to be working. It appeared that there was something else for me to do in the world but I had no idea what.
I was not ok with not knowing. I thought I had to know … otherwise I was not being responsible I thought. That was the conditioning. If something is not working I must be doing something wrong. Yes of course and then that gives me something to beat myself up about. OK. Done with that kind of thinking!
Right now I would like to know a lot of things that I don’t know. But I am ok with not knowing. Ok maybe not fully ok with it but that is something I get to surrender to. And trust. And surrendering to trust is way more powerful than most ways of being in the world!
Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!!!! <3
DAY 3 – Saying Yes to Letting Go (even though I may not want to)
First of all I am letting go of whatever needs I’ve had up to now to be verbose when I write! LOL I now look forward to writing shorter posts (ok this post could still be shorter) and getting to the point. I also let go of any need I may have for anyone to read what I write or comment. It sure makes it a lot more fun to let go of expectations. I am writing for me. It lightens my load and opens a bigger space inside of me to create. And if there is a lot more to write I let go of the need to make it short. I let go of the control. I let go of any need to control. I let go of any part of me that makes this feel like work. I let go of anything inside of me that does not allow me to have fun with my writing.
So much good comes from letting go.
Five years ago I let go of my business. It was not bringing me pleasure anymore. It was early February 2008 and after several years of thinking and wondering I had an instantaneous knowing. I was standing in my kitchen and I realized it was time to close it. I was going to put a note on the website and say “Gone Fishing” and see what was next.
In that instant I felt a great comfort – like a giant HUG from the universe and I knew that all would be ok. It was a great feeling to be ok with not knowing what was next. I knew I would be taken care of and that my bills would get paid. And the inspiration came to sell it and it was easy. It sold in 90 days because I was willing to let go of it.
Earlier this year I let go of my house. I had been nudged to sell it ever since I sold my business. I let go of clutter, sold a lot and donated and threw away much more and I still have a 10 x 20 storage unit. Yesterday I was there in search of a few things. There is much more to let go of. It feels so good and it takes courage.
And now I would like to let go of having to know where my next “permanent” home will be. I really want to know now! I am living on the other side of the city from what I am used to for the past 30 years. I have had to let of my need to get my daily cup of coffee from Whole Foods because it is just too far to drive everyday. Oh I miss visiting my store! Somehow it will all work out. And the sooner I let go of the how to get it the sooner I will have it!
That’s what I’m talking about.
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