This past weekend I was on my Facebook page and received an IM from the other side of the world from a man that thought I could help him. He had no idea it was 6:21am on Saturday morning and that I had practically just opened my sleepy eyes but I chatted with him for a bit.
He told me that relationships are very difficult for him. I could feel his sadness. He told me that someone like me would not know anything like that. Yet I explained to him that I had been where he is now and with practice relationships have become much easier for me over the years. Sometime though knowing a tool can make all the difference in the world.
It appeared that he was focusing on exactly what he did not want so of course that is going to bring him even more of what he does not want and more heartache. Without getting into all the implications of the Law of Attraction I suggested that he simply take some time that day and write down exactly what he wanted in a romantic relationship. He said that he would do that so I could feel that he was open to hearing some advice.
Then I felt this intuitive zing to suggest that he begin loving himself more. I had no idea how he was going to react or respond to this as I know nothing about him. Yet I felt the nudge to mention this because if we desire someone to love us then we must love ourselves first. We must BE that loving person we want to attract in our life.
His response….”I am going to take a bold step!” That is what he said. It did not take much time at all. He made a decision based upon a simple suggestion.
What a great way to start my day!
A few hours later I was in a conversation with a Twitter friend and the idea of beingness came up. She had mentioned that she would like to be in a continual place of being instead of the bouts of beingness that she currently experiences.
I told her that all was in perfect order and that those bouts of being are the perfect place for her to begin moving forward towards the place she wants to be…
And here is her response… “Everything is perfect for me to be in that state of beingness I want right now.”
Both of them are very fast learners! Yeah for them and yeah for the rest of the world! The more we love ourselves and stay in that place of beingness the more we inspire those around us to take these same actions. It is the ripple effect.
This is a perfect time to practice as Barack Obama begins his term in office tomorrow. We are all in this together and it begins with ME!
What are some ways that you display love towards yourself?
Tell me about your bouts of beingness.
Look forward to your comments on my blog!
iLoveU !!
Wendy
Wendy B Young
Always enjoy reading these kinds of interaction, so thank you for sharing. They are almost like reading Horatio Alger stories writ small. Heartening, encouraging and best of all real…
As I read this post for the 2nd time all parts of it are appropriate to the place I’m in at the moment.
The universe always provides answers and support. You just need to listen and let it in.
Thank you for sharing these uplifting thoughts, Wendy.
You are absolutely spot on Wendy. When we start to BE love, we are generating the ATTRACTION of LOVE and start to attract the things WE LOVE… I go into this concept much deeper in my book
Best wishes, from another man on the other side of the Atlantic. Mark.
Wendy,
Just came across your blog from Twitter. I was the one that recommended you take Uggs with you on your trip! I hope you stayed warm. I just loved my weekend in the city, and hope you did too!
I enjoyed reading your blog about loving yourself. After 47 years, I finally realized what that meant, and have made that priority #1 in my life in the last few years. I had lost myself in my marriage and motherhood. I had sacrificed myself in a disfunctional relationship shortly thereafter, in order to not be alone.
But, in the last 5 years, I have come to love (maybe too much) my alone time. I learned how to be my own best friend, to love and accept myself, and in turn, how to accept and love those around me. The more (genuine) love I give to myself, the more I can give to others.
There is still nobody significant in my life right now, but, this time, I know it is for a purpose, and it is a pleasure. I highly covet the rare moments of solitude I get, and I know the universe is giving me time I lost previously to reacquaint myself with my new love, and to get comfy with who I am. I have really gotten there, and it has helped me make the most amazing shifts in my life. My business is ROCKING, and my soul gets to shine through in everything I do. I finally found my perfect passions in life, and I couldn’t be happier. Loving myself first, was the key!
Thanks for the great blog! Looking forward to reading more!
Cantor Debbi Ballard
www.mypersonalcantor.com
http://cantorballard.wordpress.com