Today is the first day of the rest of my life.
I have been practically absent from my business in a public way since June 2014 because I have been caring for my mother who was diagnosed with a moderate level of dementia. She requires help in many areas of her life including grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, doctor’s visits, bill paying and more. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would be doing something like this.
The processes of Letting Go, Discovering and Releasing takes you to the door of the room where your treasure box resides. After all these years you finally have access to your beautiful God given gems that you have been denying for so long.
You look inside and see the gem and reach in and take it to your heart and reclaim it.
WHAT IT WILL TAKE
It is going to take WILLINGNESS to reclaim and own this precious, divine part of yourself.
When you have the willingness to look through this open door and look at your gem and you now have a choice. You can say “yes” or “no” to yourself. You have conscious choice.
You have cleared the way for this and now you get to ask “Now what am I going to do?”!
So it will take a willingness to take the actions you wanted so long ago.
There is no more denying the little child inside who has been quietly knocking on the door your entire life to. If someone compliments you on your gift there is no more rolling of the eyes. You get to say a resounding “Thank you!”
You must be willing to acknowledge this beautiful child … YOU … to love and honor this and the adult part of yourself so deeply. Be ready to say …
“OMG! That’s my gem.
I am an ______________! I love to ______________!”
My statement would be “I am an artist and I love to draw!
(Fill in the blanks with your passion!)
And if you are already creating in your type of art perhaps it is time to look deeper and see the new gem that is waiting for you.
Perhaps there is a new type of art ready for you to express. There is always an opportunity to go deeper.
When you are willing to open yourself up to deeper understanding of who you are as a divine being you are helping others to rise up and claim their gem too.
That is how we change the world. We change ourselves first. Then we serve as a model for others. Others can be your children, your parents and friends as well as your clients.
ACTION IDEAS TO BEGIN
Use your gift!
If you like to draw then draw.
If you like to write then write.
If you like to sing then sing already!
If you like to dance then do that!
I just found my tap shoes in my storage unit and I’m getting ready to put then on and start tapping. I may even sign up for a class … something I have been wanting to do for a long time.
So if you feel you are ready to own your gift buy some pads of paper and markers and/or paints, buy your tap shoes, get your piano tuned, etc. You get the idea!
If you are not sure how to get started schedule a and inquire about art classes in the art you are interested in from your local adult education guide. Here in Houston we have an organization called Leisure Learning that offers various kinds of creative and art classes. Check out your newspaper and local magazines to see what organizations offer what you are looking for.
Just go for it and change your life!
“OMG. What is wrong with me I was wondering? I better put away my art and leave right now so that nobody sees me crying!”
… It was October 2011 and I was fully immersed with my artistry. I bought a brand new drawing pad, sharpened my pencils and started drawing. I sat for hours and hours at Whole Foods Market with a cup of coffee and was having a grand time! I produced a half inch thick folder of art. I took a few days off and realized I had no idea at all where my folder of art was!!
Total panic set in. I searched my car and my house and did not find anything. I spoke to everyone I could think of at Whole Foods Market to see if they had found my art. Nobody knew anything. Then I searched my car and house again and nothing! I was devastated! I cried my eyes out and then realized I was not only crying about the lost folder of art.
I was grieving my childhood and all the sadness I had to stuff deep inside my body when I was not given the opportunity to be an artist. It was now all coming to the surface so that I could heal. When it was all done I felt like a completely different person …
And to bring things current – this past month I’ve been helping my mother settle back into her house after a few months in the hospital and a dementia unit So, I’ve been hanging around my mom a lot lately and it has been triggering lots of childhood stuff …. OMG!! I have been feeling and releasing like a mother … no pun intended!
So, lets talk about this releasing process that walks hand in hand with the discovering process.
Once you have done some digging around and started to uncover what was buried in the way of thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc you are going to be sitting with it for a bit. How long really depends on you and how much information you feel the need to gather on this particular leg of your journey.
Consider that you are in a cave after an archeological dig and now the dust (the mixture of emotions, memories) that was broken up is settling and you are beginning to breathe it all in. And now you are feeling deeply and this will bring upon a release of emotions. Hurray!!
Yes emotions in the way of healing tears that will bring you to the next pathway which you are going to love!
WHAT IT WILL TAKE:
It takes resilience for this work and you have plenty of it inside of you. Reach in and claim it.
The road with obstacles leads to smoother paths. You must learn to appreciate every day of your journey because you never know when a major insight is going to make itself known to you. It really is all good.
Take time for self care and the simple pleasures of life. This will give you the energy to invest in your inner work and for the fun and celebratory times.
Releasing is about never giving up. You must keep going forward even when the gravel road is bumpy! The paved road is just up ahead!
ACTION IDEAS TO BEGIN:
1) FEEL your feelings. The process of feeling your feelings as deeply as you can IS the process of releasing what has been stuck. This is the healing process. You are claiming yourself back.
2) Journal as often as you can. Writing will bring old thoughts to mind that will lead to strings of insights. You will understand so much more about your life and why and how everything has turned out the way it has.
3) Take walks in nature to help you connect to your true self and give you the space and time to relax.
4) Meditate and enjoy plenty of quiet time will allow your feelings to move as well and will increase your ability to relax in all kinds of situations.
5) Create art! Art moves what is stuck so that you can release easier. I will share much more about the healing benefits of creating art!
6) Get energy healing sessions from a professional and learn techniques you can do on your own such as EFT and Access Consciousness.
Remember, you are releasing what you did not feel safe to feel so long ago. Consciously choose to heal and transform your life and this will lead you to your creative passion. The time and energy you invest to do this work will be worth it. You deserve it.
The more you walk this process the more of your divine creative gift you will have access to. Allow yourself to continue to clear the way!
“Christmas Day 2010 – I remember it like it was yesterday. I was at a family member’s house and an argument had begun. I made a simple comment about sea salt – yes you heard me right! Someone interpreted my comment in a particular way and we had to take a break from the festivities and practically duke it out! I stood my ground. I shared what I needed to from my heart and it quieted everything down. I realized that when we share from our heart what can anyone say at that point.
Two weeks later I let go of a valuable material possession that a family member borrowed and would not give back. After another week or two I began feeling so much emotion run through my body that I found myself in a fetal position. It was the only way I could find some relief. I had been “taken back” to my youth to examine the chaos that had been ensuing all around me. There I was …. a 12 year young girl seeing reliving her childhood and it was extremely difficult to be there.
I spent a considerable amount of time ripping apart my thought processes from that time of my life that was still very much in control of my adult life at the time. I have come a long, long way in the past few years and had no idea just how valuable that time in discovery would be for me.
This pathway is about going back into your past and looking around from the perspective of your inner child.
You may have enjoyed accessing your creativity yet if a teacher or parent scolded you for being creative (maybe you drew on your desk, wrote poetry or were the class clown) then this is the time that you began shutting down.
You may have tried many times to create in your unique way and it just took so much of your energy to “fight the establishment” that you eventually surrendered to the discouragement. Your creative urges were buried and in some cases completely forgotten.
Now decades later you either do not create or you start projects and leave then unfinished. Yet you are finding it more difficult each day to ignore the nudge to fulfill your creative dreams.
Prepare yourself for some ahas and many realizations about your life and why things have occurred as they have. Awareness precedes the changes you are seeking.
WHAT IT WILL TAKE:
It is going to take PERSISTENCE to look back into your life and see what is ready to be revealed. The persistence is also about allowing yourself to be with the process. What is ready to be revealed to you will be. Allow yourself to be with what is.
Discovery is about exploration and your willingness to keep going!
ACTION IDEAS TO BEGIN:
The act of letting go in pathway 1 naturally brings you to discovery. You can also go on an exploratory mission.
1) Scan your childhood starting as early as you can remember. Trust that what you are ready to see will come to your awareness.
2) If there is a situation or experience you have always remembered or that pops into your awareness from time to time there is a reason for it. Pay attention to these memories. These are your points of exploration.
3) There is a great chance that you are not emotionally connected to these experiences and they have been lingering in your consciousness so that you could take a closer look. There is information from these experiences that will be very helpful to you now in discovering what created your creative blocks.
4) Create a short list. Then choose one or two of them to journal about. You will find that the journaling creates deeper awareness and peace.
5) You may begin to remember what you felt at that time. Allow yourself to FEEL. You are safe.
Love and Light!
Wendy G Young
The Creativity Shaman
“As soon as I saw the trapeze I knew I had to do it! I climbed to the top of the ladder and I was so scared I wanted to climb back down the stairs yet was told I had to step onto the platform. Then I was afraid to take the step from the platform at the same time I grabbed the handle because I knew there was no going back! After several minutes I finally took the step and flew over the net screaming and then I landed on the other side safely. I sat out for 30 minutes watching everyone else do the same thing. I was hooked. I played on the flying trapeze everyday for a week until my hands were sore and I performed in the circus show. It was great fun and a great expansion for me.”
That was a fun story about my flying trapeze experience over 20 years ago on a Club Med vacation (yes I admit I went to Club Med and had a blast! “Hands Up Baby Hands Up!” LOL)
Of course I know this is only a metaphor for letting go but it certainly shares the idea that letting go is addicting and it will take you places you never even dreamed of!
When we let go we give ourselves permission to take a deeper look at ourselves. Another way of saying this is that when we hold onto something we are not ready to look within at a deeper level.
You may already know what you are ready to let go of or at least have been contemplating. These include those behaviors and ways of being that you have been wanting to shift. Or you might be considering letting go of a relationship, job, career, your home or other material items.
Sometimes it is just so dang hard to let go. I know. It took me five years to let go of my house and this past year has been a journey of letting go. Life is filled with opportunities to let go and trust. The more you are willing to let go the more you are showing the universe your faith. And faith creates unimagined miracles.
WHAT IT WILL TAKE:
Plain and simple, letting go takes courage. Sometimes it calls for reaching deep inside and finding the courage we did not realize we have. The truth is that we have infinite amounts of courage always there for us to access.
A few years ago I walked through a very tough time and then one day I realized that my courage lived right inside of me. I could sense it, feel it, taste it and it surprised me. It was one of those aha moments when I realized that everything I ever needed lived inside of me.
Courage is at the top of the list. So consider all the times in your life you required courage and then multiply that by 10 and feel your courage RISE in you!
ACTION IDEAS TO BEGIN:
You’ve heard the phrase “The first step is the hardest?” Well lets simplify this process.
1) Make a list of all those thoughts you’ve been having about letting go.
2) Group them in different columns to separate the types of possible “things” you can let go of (behaviors, relationships and material possessions, etc).
3) Take it a step further and consider which of those you list will be easy vs “not so easy” because it will give you some perspective and help you get started.
4) Then choose something simple and LET GO.
Once you begin letting go and notice the wonderful benefits that come from it you will feel more courageous to let go again. Letting go will become a way of life for you and each time you do it you open yourself to an avalanche of new good to flow into your life. Letting go sets up a series of serendipitous events (sometimes very subtle) and it leads you into the rest of the pathways I’ll be sharing with you.
I have so much more to share about letting go and for now I will just let go!
Tomorrow look for an email from me sharing about Pathway 2: DISCOVERING What Has Been Buried and Forgotten!
Love and Light!
Wendy G Young
The Creativity Shaman
Ever feel like it is one thing after another?! Life just keeps happening and sometimes there is no time for a breather?
These days many are experiencing a quickening in challenging life events. If you are one of them I totally feel you.
This has been my life for about 30 years. My twenties were turbulent and when I started on my healing path in 1989 things began to make some sense.
10 years ago began a new series of events and six years ago another big series and then many other since. And when I take a closer look I see that they are all very connected and
I have often wanted to write about them and the reality is that when things are happening so fast and with very little recovery time it can be easy to lose track. It is my intention to share more as I walk this path because I receive insights that help me and others. I know that by sharing my journey in the form of story and insight from the experience it is serving a larger whole.
So with that in mind….
A new series of events began the end of February.
I bought a new car out of the blue (fun and surprising mystical experience I still intend to write about!).
A couple of days later I was in the process of moving and I missed a step and sprained my foot and ankle … the worst sprain ever!
After looking for help I just had to walk on my foot, carrying boxes and pushing my way through.
My dog and I stayed in a hotel for several days and walking him was painful! I held onto cars and the side of the building and sometime sat on the curb. And it was cold and rainy and I was moving SLOW.
During this time I was in the process of selling my old car which took three days of non-stop work (driving from one side of the city to the other, trading cars and getting documents together) to make it happen. I really felt as though I was being tested.
I also felt as though I was pushing myself to the next level of inner growth. While that was nice to realize I was just tired and my sweet dog was getting confused over the continuing change from one car to the other.
I kept pushing through. I had no other choice.
Then after several weeks of testing my mother was moved into a lock-down unit of an assisted living home for dementia – very emotionally challenging.
It has been a challenging couple of months working towards acceptance of my mother’s health. All kinds of anger and grief has surfaced and keep working through it using my own processes and getting help from other energy healers
There is no other choice for me. What about you? What is your choice?
I’d love to hear.
PS. One hint to move through the rough stuff: Create Art!
The other morning I was talking to my sister.
“What? You had a miscarriage? I didn’t even know you were pregnant!”
Then my eyes opened.
“What was THAT? Oh!! That had nothing to do with my sister!”
The dream was a symbol for the nightmare I had been living.
After selling my 17 year ergonomic business in 2008 I followed a calling. Over a period of years I created and offered a string of products and services and each time I began marketing them they flopped!
Every one of my project launches miscarried!
OMG. That really put things into perspective for me. I browsed my work and realized the massive amount of writing I completed. Sales pages. Optin pages. Thank you pages. Download pages. Video creation. Editing. Branding. Marketing messages. Social Media. Technical challenges. Family issues.
And then falling flat on my butt.
Doubt crept in and I lost momentum over and again. Sometimes I just wanted to give up. Does that sound familiar?
And then I realized the perfection of the entire experience.
I had been slowly dipping my toes in the water and building my confidence with each baby step and each success. One of my artist friends, Tara Dixon said “They are all baby steps.” … No truer words could be said about the process of bringing your dreams to life. We must keep going no matter what and eventually we will make great progress. The process of the work made me confront my deepest fears and beliefs so I could shift them.
The good news…
My art dream is beginning to bud. I love creating colorful art and I’m creating a new collection. I took my latest launch full term and we are almost midway through the course and my clients are experiencing transformations and I love serving them.
You see – a few years ago a coach told me to connect to my core gifts and that everything would spring forth from there. What gifts? What passions were at my core that I was not in touch with? These questions had me exploring who I am.
Was it easy? No! It was a slow and very painful process. I persevered on my own and eventually tapped a deeper understanding of myself and this changed EVERYTHING for me. Months later as I reflected on the previous couple of years I saw the processes I had been using on myself to heal and transform and own my artistic gifts.
I’m grateful for all the miscarried projects, birthing pains and successes. The lessons are now my teachings. I continue to do my inner work and transform my life as the unlimited being that I AM.
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We are still in the newness of 2014 and I wonder how everything is going for you and what new choices and actions are calling you…
ME: I am being guided to face what I’ve been resisting.
I attempted to share something for the past several years and each time I lost my nerve. This past Saturday morning something shifted and after staring at my video camera for several hours I found my courage. About midway through I felt a new sparkle of happiness move through me and I knew I made the right choice. I share something so vulnerable and that has been the driving force of my existence since 1989.
If you’ve been on a challenging path and in need of healing I invite you to watch and to share with anyone you feel could benefit.
I appreciate you and I love you.
PS. A few times during the video I tried getting my dog to stop scratching because I thought it was interfering with the video (it wasn’t) so please excuse me for that…
I never thought much about confidence or courage for that matter.
When I was growing up I was put down a lot at home, school and extracurricular activities. I was also given too much responsibility at home instead of getting out, socializing and dating. My mother used to tell me that the boys did not ask me out because I was not rich. I have often wondered how that affected me in all areas of my life. I tried a lot growing up and somewhere along the way I must have lost my confidence and did not realize it.
In the early days of my business I made cold calls. I knocked on doors and handed out my cards and I looked through the phone book and made phone calls. I never really liked it but as I look back I can see how it helped me build confidence and as well as my business.
Recently I have realized that I have been building confidence. I’ve been putting myself out there more, leading calls and sharing more of my story. It was not anything I was trying to do but it feels good to notice that my confidence is getting stronger as I step deeper into my purpose and new business. Everything I do these days is getting easier. And I care less about being perfect. Plus I do not seem to care what people may think about me anymore either.
The point is I’m feeling a level of confidence that is new and refreshing … now that I’m paying attention to it! 🙂
First of all I am letting go of whatever needs I’ve had up to now to be verbose when I write! LOL I now look forward to writing shorter posts (ok this post could still be shorter) and getting to the point. I also let go of any need I may have for anyone to read what I write or comment. It sure makes it a lot more fun to let go of expectations. I am writing for me. It lightens my load and opens a bigger space inside of me to create. And if there is a lot more to write I let go of the need to make it short. I let go of the control. I let go of any need to control. I let go of any part of me that makes this feel like work. I let go of anything inside of me that does not allow me to have fun with my writing.
So much good comes from letting go.
Five years ago I let go of my business. It was not bringing me pleasure anymore. It was early February 2008 and after several years of thinking and wondering I had an instantaneous knowing. I was standing in my kitchen and I realized it was time to close it. I was going to put a note on the website and say “Gone Fishing” and see what was next.
In that instant I felt a great comfort – like a giant HUG from the universe and I knew that all would be ok. It was a great feeling to be ok with not knowing what was next. I knew I would be taken care of and that my bills would get paid. And the inspiration came to sell it and it was easy. It sold in 90 days because I was willing to let go of it.
Earlier this year I let go of my house. I had been nudged to sell it ever since I sold my business. I let go of clutter, sold a lot and donated and threw away much more and I still have a 10 x 20 storage unit. Yesterday I was there in search of a few things. There is much more to let go of. It feels so good and it takes courage.
And now I would like to let go of having to know where my next “permanent” home will be. I really want to know now! I am living on the other side of the city from what I am used to for the past 30 years. I have had to let of my need to get my daily cup of coffee from Whole Foods because it is just too far to drive everyday. Oh I miss visiting my store! Somehow it will all work out. And the sooner I let go of the how to get it the sooner I will have it!
That’s what I’m talking about.